Man Dem - All The Content That Men Need | Âé¶čÊÓÆ”! /category/man/ Come for the fun, stay for the culture! Fri, 07 Aug 2026 07:55:32 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.2 /wp-content/uploads/zikoko/2020/04/cropped-Âé¶čÊÓÆ”_Âé¶čÊÓÆ”_Purple-Logo-1-150x150.jpg Man Dem - All The Content That Men Need | Âé¶čÊÓÆ”! /category/man/ 32 32 Tobi Bakre On Exploring Real Masculinity In ‘Before We Fall Asleep’ /man/before-we-fall-asleep-tobi-bakre/ Wed, 05 Aug 2026 11:35:42 +0000 /?p=381868 We’ve seen Tobi Bakre take on several roles. But not one as dramatic and familiar as Tola in Before We Fall Asleep. Tola is loving, hardworking, and deeply devoted to his family. But when he loses his corporate job, the identity he has built around being the provider begins to fall apart. Suddenly, he has to confront a question many men never get around to asking. Who are you when you can no longer be the ‘man of the house’?

In this conversation, Tobi Bakre talks about playing a character defined by traditional masculinity. How he learned to empathise with him, and why partnership as a man is about more than money. 

How would you describe Tola in Before We Fall Asleep?

Tola is your average Nigerian good guy. He’s a great guy trying to make ends meet while figuring life out. 

You sound like he’s someone you would know.

Yeah. Partly because as a professional, you have to personalise and embody the character you’re playing. So, in seeing how the character played out through the story,  I can relate to him. Tola is a family guy and a hard worker. At the same time, he’s a genuine lover boy. And like every Nigerian youth, he’s trying to figure life out. Dealing with its challenges, the economy, etc.  I could tell that his problems were things that only time could help him learn how to handle. 

A lot of the time, when you’re handed a situation you’ve never experienced, you try to handle it based on things you’ve learnt. It may be from a certain background, ideology, or general outlook on life. Sometimes, what you know may not work. This guy has to deal with these problems with a partner in the picture. This partner also happens to be someone with a different background, ideology, and mindset.

Why was it important that audiences see Tola as a good man first? 

 I feel like that’s a question for the writers. But if I’m going to talk about it, I’ll say it’s just to show that a lot of people are not villains.  We often focus on the differences between men and women, and we rush to make one side the villain. Sometimes all that is needed is understanding and empathy. I’m not saying this applies in all cases because sometimes there are people who are villains. But in some cases, people are just being who they are. And they need to be understood or properly communicated with. 

Is there anything about Tola that you initially disagreed with but later came to understand?

When I read the story, the first thing that came to my mind was ‘this guy shouldn’t see some of these things as a big deal now’. But while I was on set and living in his world, I could understand why this was a problem for him. He’s educated and fairly progressive. But all the things he has internalized from childhood about being a man won’t just leave. He needs experiences to reshape them.

There are definitely moments that come across as selfish. On the first read of the script, it’s easy to want to judge those choices. But as an actor, I can’t judge the character I’m playing. My job is literally to understand his point of view.

How do you get audiences to empathise with a character whose choices they may disagree with? 

Drawing from my personal life, I don’t expect the world to understand everything I do. You can be the best person with the best intentions,  but some people will still be against you. Regardless of your intentions or your actions, you’re going to have people who will never try to understand you. I’ve dealt with that in my personal life. So I’m not bothered by having to play a character that people might not like. That’s why we’re doing this kind of project. We need to have these tough conversations where open-minded people can learn, and others can communicate their views.

I’d also say it’s interesting to play such characters. Even though your personal ideology influences how you perceive the character, it’s always surprising to see someone else’s take. You might learn a thing or two. 

What did playing Tola make you reconsider about masculinity? 

I’d say the traditional ‘man must provide’ culture. Back in the day, providing as a man meant giving your family financial security. But in this day and age, ‘provision’ has taken a different turn. In a case where you’re not able to provide financially, there are other ways you can give your family value or security. These days, you see fathers doing pickups and drop-offs from school. Traditionally, school runs used to be seen as the role of a mother. People are growing out of that mentality. We’re having partnerships between parents in terms of finance, taking care of the kids, and the household.  

We need to help people understand that they’re not wrong to have felt or to feel a certain way about masculinity. It’s based on how you were brought up. But don’t think that being a man stops at providing financially. In our community, self-worth is built mainly around financial success. Regardless, the modern man should not centre his masculinity around his finances. Self-worth should come from the quality of your person. That’s what I preach, and that’s what I also learned from playing Tola.

Are these things you struggled with in your personal life?

No, actually. Growing up, I’ve always been proactive when it comes to things that people perceive to be women’s duties. I don’t see gender when it comes to washing plates or changing diapers. What matters is whether it’s convenient for me to do it at the moment. If my wife is doing one thing, I can do this other thing. We’re not keeping score, and at every point, each person is putting in 100%. My hundred per cent might look different from hers on any given day. But the important thing is that we’re both giving what we can.  

We’re all individuals going through our own journey, and that is definitely going to factor into any relationship. What is important is to constantly find ways to be better and more supportive. That’s what makes a good relationship. 

What do you think this story adds to the conversation on gender norms?

It shows the mindset of men who are in that situation. Some men might beg to differ, or they might insist that they would act differently. But the conversation, I hope, would be at the centre: ‘What is ideal?’  

In the end, these things are subjective. What works for couple A might not necessarily work for couple B. What some people call unpaid labour is what some people want. I try not to put people in boxes. It’s more about identifying what works for you, finding a partner that aligns with your ideology and then making it work. Some women want to be housewives, while others want to be career women. To each his own. But there’s a way to make things work in a household where you have a career-driven couple. If all the things people typically argue about, like cooking or cleaning, can be outsourced, why does it become one person’s responsibility? 

What was the most difficult thing for you about playing Tola?

One thing the director did that I found interesting was that he told Onyinye and me to stand in front of each other and stare each other in the eyes for five minutes. We did this while the crew was in the background setting up for the day’s filming. It wasn’t particularly difficult, but it was new. It was also the first time I had been asked to do such a thing. As easy as it might sound, when you’re looking straight at a person like that, it feels very comical. You might laugh, but then you stop, and you’re still looking at this person’s face. What it translated to was that by the time we were on set, it was easy to look her in the eye. 

Oh, yeah. I also had to bathe a baby. I have two kids, so this wasn’t new for me. But it’s very different when it is someone else’s child. I know my way around a tiny human, but at the same time, I had to be extra extra careful. It also happened to be my first day on set, and it was the first thing we had to shoot. So it was like, ‘oh, wow, we’re really going to just get right into it’. I can’t wait to see what that scene looks like.

What do you hope men, in particular, take away from Tola’s journey? 

When you have a partner you love and respect, it might require doing things you don’t find pleasing. Every successful business, partnership, and relationship takes actual work. Going to the office isn’t the only thing you do. As long as it moves things forward in the household, you should be willing to do it. Also, as a man, your financial capacity and physical strength don’t define you. There are ways to express masculinity in a way that’s not choking. I hope more men choose that.


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Overthinkers Anonymous: EDK Is Not Here For Hot Takes /general/osato-edokpayi-overthinkers-anonymous/ Wed, 15 Jul 2026 14:57:43 +0000 /?p=380510 We’re nine episodes into , the weekly living room where we geek out about money, masculinity, relationships and everything in between. Osato “EDK” Edokpayi has been there from day one, bouncing hot dilemmas with co‑host Deji Osikoya and somehow making our collective confusion feel like group therapy with banter.

From years on the radio to podcasting, EDK has built a career out of talking through the wahala in people’s heads. In this episode, he breaks down the art of listening, adulting in Nigeria and why life’s messiest questions deserve more than one‑minute hot takes. 

What does being an overthinker mean to you? 

I think it’s beyond brooding over things that are bothering you, which is what people generally would say. For me, overthinking is staying with a problem until I find clarity or a path forward. It can look like brooding from the outside, but it’s usually how I work through things.

So, how would you describe Overthinkers Anonymous to someone who hasn’t seen an episode?

It’s a podcast about guys and women geeking out about everyday issues. Typically the types  that have  young people thinking, ‘What is going on in my life?’

On most podcasts, people just come to talk about things, but nobody’s really solving anything. When Overthinkers Anonymous was pitched to us, we were told dilemmas would be a part of it.  To be fair, that’s what a lot of podcasts have become. Dilemmas everywhere. Everybody loves a good dilemma, but we’re not using them for content or talking points. There are actually solutions in there. Listening to guests and my co-host, I realised I’d find these conversations genuinely useful if I were the one facing those dilemmas. 

How do you handle the feeling of responsibility that comes with discussing people’s real-life problems on a public forum?

The truth is, somebody on the other side of the screen is being vulnerable to strangers. They’ve gotten to a point in life where they see sharing their problems on a public platform as the only way out. You have to respect the vulnerability of the person sharing and the audience listening. The people engaging are spending time or, in our case, resources like data to engage. Those things are very valuable, especially for MTN users.

Is this your first time solving dilemmas for strangers?

Yes and no. I’m a radio host,  and I produce my radio shows. We have a dilemma segment on the show as well. I don’t typically have a co-host on my show, so I created an AI co-host. Then I took a step further and created a personality for the AI entity. She’s sassy, a bit snarky, and really hates me. But then she loves the listeners, and they love engaging her. One of the things that was a big hit with the AI co-host is that she answers dilemmas on air.

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Of course, it’s the people on the team who feed her the answers, and we have to think quickly., But we also take care that the same principles apply here. The beauty of radio is that people share really intimate moments with you. People are in their bathrooms and sitting in their cars alone listening to you. They get really vulnerable very quickly. I’ve heard kids on their way to school talk about trouble with classmates, and adults share stories about friends who left the country without telling them. People obviously ask what’s wrong with the government. If it’s football season, people ask what’s going on with a particular team.  The AI co-host that we created always has an answer.

I never give the answers myself on air.  Even though, technically, it is me speaking through the AI co-host. She also sometimes shares thoughts that I wouldn’t want to say on air.

Why wouldn’t you want to say those things on air? Are you afraid of being dragged?

No, no. People know me for being funny and pleasant. But sometimes I just want to yab people. In a lighthearted way, of course. If you just heard me say something really nice and then the next moment you’re hearing me diss someone, there can be a bit of a dissonance.  On radio, we have co-hosts to prevent that. So everybody plays a part. My role is to drive the show and find all the things that will make Lagos rock for a few hours. Then this AI entity that we created comes in to cause trouble. 

Do you and your co-host on Overthinkers Anonymous also have some form of this dynamic?

To be fair, I don’t think we ever had that conversation. But I can understand the dynamic because of my training. This is Deji’s house, and it’s nice to come in occasionally to talk about life. Even though I’m always there when things are being sorted, it’s not my house. In terms of how a show like that would work, Deji has to drive the show, and I’m cool being the co-pilot.

Also, he has the best cold opens I’ve seen in a long time. I like the way we start the show. There’s never a ‘welcome to our show today’ and so on. It’s just ‘hey, I’ve rocked up to your house, bro, and e get this thing wey I dey think
’ Then we pick it up from there. Ultimately, it is a team effort. We need listeners to understand that it’s a show for them to come in and feel like they’re in that living room, having those conversations with us in real time. These are conversations they can have with their own friends. 

What kind of conversations do you want people to take from the show?

As I said, it’s important that people see themselves having these conversations. Look at everything we spoke about in this season, from why men don’t read to the role of money in relationships and family dynamics. We touched on addiction and many other things that are affecting a lot of young people today. I’m sure we’ve not even scratched the surface of everything we need to talk about. I have people sending me screenshots from some of their guys who watched the show. Some of them are saying things like ‘omo, it’s only 48 Laws of Power I’ve read o’ or  ‘so there are other books out there for me as well’. 

A couple of guys could see this and decide to challenge this thing where men don’t have book clubs.  They could make that happen. I mean, we get together and play ball; who says we can’t get together and discuss books?? 

What exactly does Overthinkers Anonymous do differently from other relationship and culture podcasts?

There are not a lot of shows that give you the experience of everyday people who are honest about their experiences. We’re not looking for virality.  So we don’t go into episodes looking for things that would blow up the internet. Certain people like to say outrageous things to provoke emotion.  On the radio, we call these people shock jocks. You see a lot of shock jocks on mainstream relationship and culture podcasts. There is a tendency to want to sensationalise things or play up a personality to appeal to extremes of people’s tastes. But what Overthinkers Anonymous has shown is that you can take the other path and still resonate with people. We can tell that people really like the personalities that they hear and see. Nobody is out here trying to be the most extreme version of themselves to get likes. The people you see on the couch act and talk like that in real life. 

 In what ways do you think men and women differ in the way that they overthink things?

I think the difference is in how they share what they’re thinking about. What I find interesting is that it takes a bit of time for men to share what they are thinking. You need to almost always create the right environment for it to happen. The right environment could be fish and beer or a PS5. But there needs to be a setup for it to happen. It’s very hard to hear men sharing what they are thinking unprovoked. They need to be eased into it.

Women, on the other hand, are very quick to open up. We could just be driving past Ozumba Mbadiwe, and everybody in the car would start to talk about what’s happening in their lives. 

What’s something you have stopped overthinking as you’ve gotten older?

 It is money o. I said it in the first episode; I just don’t overthink money anymore. Maybe because I’ve hung out in the northern part of the country and interacted with a lot of Muslims. I can’t help but think everything I have can be gone in a second. This whole rat race is a bit stressful, to be honest. If you wake up every day and you’re thinking of how you must make money, it becomes exhausting. I would rather think of ways I can add value and make an impact. It eventually leads to wealth creation anyway. Why not just do the things that lead to wealth creation instead of being obsessed with chasing wealth?  As I’ve gotten older, I realise that as long as I’m able to survive and be comfortable, I’m good. If I have a little extra for enjoyment, good.  Otherwise I’m okay.

Basically, life is short, buy ice cream and do what you love.

Exactly! Life is too short to be taken seriously.


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Deji Osikoya Wants To Inspire Vulnerability: One Living‑Room Conversation At A Time  /general/deji-osikoya-overthinkers-anonymous/ Tue, 14 Jul 2026 15:39:20 +0000 /?p=380483 If you’ve spent enough time on the internet, you’ve probably heard Deji’s voice in a Coca-Cola commercial. If you haven’t, you might have heard him hyping up the crowd before a Fireboy concert. Or, more recently, hosting Overthinkers Anonymous, a weekly show that explores masculinity, relationships, money and the realities of modern adulthood.

In this article, he discusses vulnerability, dealing with online criticism, and why meaningful conversations between men matter now more than ever. 

Would you say that you are an overthinker?

One thousand per cent. Overthinking, to me, means cycling through a billion possible scenarios far longer than you need to before arriving at an answer. Or not always arriving at an answer. Sometimes it’s staying in one cycle of thinking until you’re exhausted, and then it forms an action. 

Is that why you wanted to be a part of Overthinkers Anonymous?

Funny enough, I don’t think the name came until after I joined the team. What initially drew me to it was the idea that the show was going to be centred on healthy conversations with men (and women). It aligned with stuff I already planned on doing. I’m passionate about improving the PR and behaviour of men. It’s not like I’m perfect, but I see that there are ways we’re dropping the ball. And we could definitely be doing better. This show is supposed to be a vehicle for that. 

How would you describe the show to someone who hasn’t seen an episode?

Overthinkers Anonymous is a conversation that happens in my living room. There’s a slight structure, but for the most part, everybody’s just allowed to bare their hearts on their sleeve. It’s men having conversations that we have every day in private or don’t have at all with themselves and with women.

My biggest pitch to anybody who would love to watch Overthinkers Anonymous is that if you’re a man, there is a likelihood that you will see yourself in some of the people who appear on the show. If you don’t, it will at least give you a fresh perspective on things that you haven’t considered before. I also think you’ll be met with softness. I’m a soft person. I like soft people, and I lead with softness to encourage people to be gentle.

What specific gap do you think the show would fill?

Hopefully, this doesn’t come across as an insult to anybody. I think we needed to create a space where we would be able to have conversations in good faith. We’re not trying to come across as experts speaking down on people and telling them to do better. 

Particularly because a lot of these conversations are hard for people to have. It is important to us that there is a level of vulnerability being displayed by the hosts. And I’m nothing if not vulnerable. I don’t think of it as just a means to get views. It feels more like a service. It was cathartic for me as well.

How? 

I am having a lot of conversations about things that I was dealing with in real time. There was an episode where we had Seye Bandele, and he was talking about the struggles of entrepreneurship and building a family with his wife. He spoke about ensuring that his wife trusted him enough to decide to get married to him. I was asking questions that I actually had, like ‘what does it take to get your partner to buy into an unrealised vision?’

I’m an entrepreneur, and I’m still very early in my career. So these were answers that I needed to hear. There were also things underneath the surface that the show was helping me to process. Nigeria is really tough, being a man is really tough and having conversations that help you to lean on other people makes it easier.

So, about marriage, should we be expecting to hear wedding bells soon?

Hahaha. I mean, if you’d like to hear wedding bells, I can play some on my phone. Wedding bells are not hard to get at all. 

How do you balance humour with sensitivity?

 To be honest with you, I don’t know if I do it consciously. I’m the kind of person who is very quick to make a joke out of a difficult subject. And if there’s something extra sensitive, I’m very careful about the way that it’s worded. I don’t want people to feel like they’re being interrogated or prodded for gist. 

At the end of the day, if there are things a guest doesn’t want to share, it’s well within their rights. My co-host, EDK, is the same way. He’s an emotionally intelligent guy who knows that you don’t go beyond certain aspects of a conversation. 

If you’re so intentional about vulnerability, how do you prepare for conversations that seem spontaneous?

Working with my producer, Anita Eboigbe, is very central to that. She helps with calling topics and developing the different discussions that we have. Outside of that, I try to deal with the material honestly.

When I speak, it’s from a genuinely curious place. I’m not just trying to tick off the bullet points on the list. I don’t hit all the notes exactly the way that they’re described in the brief because I do a lot of editing. If something super interesting comes up and it wasn’t initially part of my original plan, I allow it to flow naturally.

What made EDK the right person to co-host the show with?

Our chemistry and brotherhood comes from having conversation after conversation. The first time we ever met, it was over food, and we just kept gisting.  We realised that we got along, and the rest is history.

Did you have any doubts about how well the audience would receive the show? 

Several. One, I was nervous about just being perceived. As much as I do a lot of front-facing stuff, there’s never a guarantee of how people might receive you. Men, in particular, can be very interesting people.  Another thing I was nervous about was posturing like an expert.

There was a tweet where someone said, ‘Tell that brother to uncross his legs; nobody wants to take advice from a feminine Tupac. ’ I thought it was hilarious because the set of the show is my living room, and I’m obviously very comfortable. But the reason why it was even more interesting as feedback is that I don’t want it to feel like we’re giving advice. I’m not trained as a counsellor. The idea is that I’m a guy like you who’s just figuring it out or a friend giving you a listening ear. That way, it might be easier to accept.

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I was also nervous about toxic masculinity. You always wonder if you’ll be able to break past all the different walls and actually touch something real within a man. It’s not always the easiest thing.  Also, it’s not something that you’ll always be able to do because a lot of men have put up so many defences.

How many of your doubts turned out to be true?

All of them. Some people are listening through the lenses of their insecurity, which I’ve seen with the money episode. Also, as I said, no one wants to take advice from a feminine Tupac. I’m grateful that I’ve done things that’ve made my skin thicker. The toxic masculinity aspect has definitely shown that people don’t look at things in context. They engage with the clip, they drop their mean comments, and they move on. 

However, there’s been so much positive feedback within that as well. The conversations that have resulted from our episodes and seeing the profiles of the guests on the show grow. I know that it’s actually helping people. A recurring comment we get is ‘Just when I was thinking about my life, this pops up. Thank you’. 

The show makes itself a space for the male perspective. How do you see these shifting, existing, harmful gender norms in Nigerian society?

To be honest, I don’t see the show being the vehicle for that by itself. This being the shift itself would be too ambitious a goal to set. I don’t think people change that easily. But I think it’s a significant start to the shift.

There’s a two-part quote that says, ‘I don’t know that I’m going to be the change, but I think that I will influence the person who will change’. I think that is us. 

Are there topics you are especially excited to tackle as the show continues?

Oh! We tackled the manosphere and the ways that masculinity is being projected to younger men. I would love to see how that plays with the audience. 

I’ve also been looking forward to talking about male friendship. I would love to dedicate an entire episode to male friendship and what it looks like. The ways that we can show up for each other. I’d also probably even like to have that conversation adjacent to women because I think there’s a strength in female friendships that we need to learn from. 


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40 Agbada Styles for Men Who Want to Stand Out /man/agbada-styles-for-men/ Thu, 26 Jun 2025 20:45:09 +0000 /?p=351117

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When you want to stand out as a proper Naija man, agbadas and senator wears always deliver. But when trying to pick from the many different agbada styles for men, you need to find one that frames you well, looks sharp in full-length photos, and makes you feel like the best-dressed man in the room. 

Maybe you’re attending a wedding. Maybe you’re the groom. Or maybe you just want to show up and remind people you’re not on their level. Either way, the goal is simple: wear an agbada that turns heads, earns compliments and gets you photographs that show your steeze.

This post is your visual guide to the latest agbada styles for men. Whether you’re going lowkey or going all out, there’s something here for your budget, your taste, and your next big event.

Simple Agbada Styles for Men

You don’t always need extra drama to make a statement. Simple agbada styles are for when you want to look good without doing too much. If you’re going for calm confidence over flash, this section has you covered.

1. Senator Agbada

This agbada proves that simple doesn’t mean boring. From the clean structure to the subtle embroidery, it’s the kind of look that gives agbada styles for men a refined edge.

Who it fits: It suits slim and medium builds best because of how the fabric drapes.

Where to wear it: Perfect for weddings, birthdays, church services, and high-end evening events.

2. Simple Emerald Embroidery

This is one of those agbada styles for men that’s commanding. The green tones bring warmth, and the embroidery doesn’t overwhelm the fabric. It’s clean, structured, and flows naturally with the outfit. 

Who it fits: The color also works well for warm and medium skin tones.

Where to wear it: Perfect for birthdays, weddings, church celebrations. 

3. Olive Code

The deep olive green and black combo here is rich but not too loud. It gives you presence, but you won’t look overdressed.

Where to wear it: Ideal for weddings, Sunday events, or even photo sessions. It also fits traditional ceremonies where you want to look cultural but clean.

Care tips: Don’t machine wash. Iron inside-out to protect the fabric’s shine.

4. Royal Rhombus

First off, Ebuka no dey carry last, especially when it comes to agbadas. The patchwork of blue, brown, and teal diamonds turns the whole outfit into a walking statement. Also, there’s no added bulk or overdone embroidery. 

Where to wear it: Perfect for grand ceremonies, high-profile weddings, or events where you want to stand out from a sea of white and black.

Care tips: This is not the fabric to toss around. Store it neatly on a hanger to keep the pattern smooth and crease-free.

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5. S-Emblem Agbada

This agbada style for men strikes a balance between elegance and ease. The embroidery detail is clean but not overwhelming. 

Who it fits: If you’re the type that prefers smooth tailoring over loud fashion, this is your lane. The neat cut and calm color palette suit younger professionals and older men alike.

How to style it: No need to go overboard with jewelry. The embroidery already adds enough personality.

6. Royal Grid Agbada

This agbada keeps things clean with a smooth fabric base and sharp, geometric embroidery that forms a grid pattern. 

Who it fits: It suits men who want a balance between tradition and a modern finish. Whether you’re slim or broad-shouldered, this structured layout works across different builds.

Where to wear it: Perfect for Aso Ebi at weddings, birthdays, or any formal gathering where you want to look fresh but not overdo it.

7. Dusty Rose Detail Agbada

The design here is focused on a single front panel, so the overall look remains uncluttered and clean.

Who it fits: Ideal for men with a calm, confident style.

Where to wear it: Great for engagement ceremonies, naming ceremonies, classy evening events, or even Eid celebrations. 

8. Oat Brown Minimalist Agbada

The elegance in this agbada style is in the precision.

How to style it:  Pair it with a wristwatch, a muted cap or go without. Choose loafers in tan, dark brown, or even a clean black for a sharper edge. 

Care tips: Because there’s no embroidery, this agbada is easier to press and store. Iron with light starch if you want more structure. 

9. Classic Gold Panel Agbada

This agbada style for men isn’t trying to be loud. No extra fabric drama. No mixed colours or flashy accents.

Who it fits: It suits you if you like structure, symmetry, and a touch of authority in your outfits. It gives grown man energy – composed, focused, and tasteful.

Where to wear it: Perfect for events where you need to look responsible and put together. If you’re visiting your in-laws, this outfit will do you justice.

10. Chocolate Monochrome Agbada

This agbada style for men is sharp and minimal, with a rich chocolate brown base and carefully placed grey and white embroidery. 

Who it’s for: It suits someone who pays attention to detail. If you like your outfits to reflect calm power and fine taste, this is your style.

Where to wear it: Great for formal events, wedding receptions, or traditional ceremonies. It also works well for photoshoots or occasions where you want to be remembered without doing too much.

11. Royal Zip Agbada

One thing about this agbada style? It is anything but traditional. It’s for the modern man who wants something bold, structured, and different.

Where to wear it: Perfect for weddings (especially as the groom or a VIP guest), red carpet events, fashion shows, or exclusive private parties. 

Care tips: This colour can attract dust and fingerprints, so handle it with care. Avoid on the velvet trim and keep it away from sunlight to prevent fading.

12. Noble Twist Agbada

Why this agbada style for men stands out is because it is a neat, classy choice with just the right touch of tradition and swagger. Plus, the dark royal blue colour gives it a rich, confident look that flatters almost every skin tone.

13. Sea Sage Agbada

See how it combines a soft sage green base with strong black embroidery. The embroidery design is detailed and artistic! 

Who it’s for: This is perfect for a stylish man who likes his clothes to reflect personality. It works well for fashion-forward grooms or groomsmen too.

14. Royal Sand Agbada

This style blends everything into one soft tone The embroidery work is neatly layered, making the outfit look rich without being flashy. 

Who it’s for: Perfect for a calm, confident man who doesn’t need bold colours to stand out. 

Care tips: Because of the light colour, avoid stains and sweat patches. 

15. Navy Hex Agbada

The hexagonal chest embroidery is the real eye-catcher here while the deep navy base gives the outfit a mature, confident feel. This agbada says “I came prepared” without having to speak. 

Where to wear it: Ideal for formal weddings, political gatherings, milestone birthdays, or upscale evening events.

16. Grey Regal Agbada

This agbada is made for men who value respect, legacy, and intentional presence. It’s dignified, mature, and unapologetically kingly.

Where to wear it: Perfect for weddings (especially if you’re a father, uncle, or chairman), award ceremonies, or any event where you sit at the head of the table.

White Agbada Styles for Men

They say white is basic. But any man who’s worn a properly styled white agbada knows it’s the opposite. Wearing white agbada is like stepping into the spotlight, if your fit isn’t sharp and your confidence isn’t on point, the outfit will expose it.

These white agbada styles for men are clean. And if you can pull it off, you’ll have everyone looking twice.

1. The Cocoa Royalty Look

If you want your white agbada style to feel noble yet artistic, this design nails it. 

Where to wear it: Award nights, cultural events, naming ceremonies, or as a distinguished guest outfit for weddings.

2. The White Harmony Ensemble

This is one of those agbada styles for men that speaks directly to creatives. Notice the treble clefs and bronze-toned artistic face, this isn’t mere fashion, it’s expression.

Who it’s for: If you’re a groom who loves art or a guest who wants to stand out, try this.

Where to wear it: Traditional weddings, pre-wedding shoots, cultural galas, or as a subtle statement at a naming ceremony.

Good to know: This agbada works best in textured fabrics like damask or polished cotton to give depth and durability to the embroidery.

3. The White Regal Classic

This is one of the most understated but elite agbada styles for men. The design is clean but the cut, fabric texture, and brown beaded accents elevate this white agbada into something royally timeless.

Who it’s for: If you want a look that commands quiet respect and mature class, this one delivers.

Where to wear it: Burial ceremonies, chieftaincy titles, father-of-the-bride moments, 

4. The White & Navy Royal Contrast

This white agbada style for men is youthful, stylish, and bold.

Where to wear it: Birthday parties, Yoruba weddings, engagement ceremonies, or anytime you want to stand out without trying too hard.

5. The Royal Grid Elegance

This is not your average white agbada style for men. It’s minimalist but not plain, classy but not stiff. 

Where to wear it: Dedication ceremonies, family introductions, gallery events, or a wedding where you’re not the groom but still want to be noticed.

6. The Royal Groom Look

Out of all white agbada styles for men, this one is designed for impact. So if you’re hunting for styles that scream royalty without a single word, this is the one. 

Where to wear it: Traditional weddings, luxury ceremonies, elite family introductions. Basically, anywhere you want to be seen once and remembered forever.

How to style it: Keep the accessories gold-toned to complement the gems on the agbada. Walk tall. Literally. This style deserves it!

7. The Classic All-White Elegance

This is one of those timeless agbada styles for men that proves simplicity can be powerful. It’s clean, dignified and it works every single time.

Where to wear it: Traditional weddings, chieftaincy events or photoshoots.

Who it’s for: If you want white agbada styles for men that are rooted in culture but still sharp for today, this one’s a strong pick.

8. The Regal Traditional Chief Look

If you’re going for a white agbada style that commands respect the moment you walk in, wear this. 

Where to wear it: Great for traditional weddings, family title-taking ceremonies, or when you need to look like you own half of the village — respectfully.

9. The Polished Monarch Look

Note how there’s something effortlessly clean about this style? It’s the kind of agbada style for men that balances class and comfort, with just enough tradition to make a statement without trying too hard.

10. The Regal Northern Flair

Just look at that fine northern touch. The design here is perfect for when you want to blend class with culture. 

Where to wear it: Naming ceremonies, weddings, Eid celebrations, or that big family event where you want to look like “the one they all respect.”

11. The Royal Accent Touch

This white agbada look is pure sophistication with a sprinkle of boldness, and the deep red accessories: coral beads, statement cap, and velvet loafers take everything up a notch.

Wedding Agbada Styles for Men

Warning: If you aren’t the groom, some of these agbada styles will have people mistaking you for him. If that’s not your role, wear with caution.

But if you’re here to make a statement as the groom, these wedding agbada styles are built for attention with your bride. Just be ready for compliments, photos, and a few jealous stares.

1. The Royal Heritage Agbada

This wedding agbada style is a powerful nod to Nigerian royalty. Aside from fashion, it’s a statement of cultural pride. If you’re the groom and want your entrance to feel like a coronation, this is how you do it.

Where to Wear It: Ideal for traditional weddings, especially where the groom wants to honor his heritage boldly. It’s perfect for Yoruba, Hausa, or fusion cultural weddings with a strong traditional theme.

2. Champagne Royal Agbada

This look is a perfect representation of luxury when it comes to wedding agbada styles for men. I’m impressed with how the groom completes the look with layered ivory beads, a rich brown velvet cap, and a staff. 

Care Tips: Stick to professional dry cleaning only, the fabric’s richness deserves careful handling. Keep away from moisture and certain perfumes to maintain the sheen of the brocade.

Good to Know: If you’re sweating a lot, invest in a lightweight cotton inner top, brocade doesn’t breathe well.

3. Navy Prestige Agbada

This is one of the boldest wedding agbada styles for men. It’s elegant, masculine, and full of presence.

Where to Wear It: Perfect for Igbo and Yoruba weddings, especially in luxurious hotel venues or modern traditional halls. 

4. Idoma Heritage Agbada

This wedding agbada style for men pays homage to the rich cultural elegance of the Idoma people. 

Where to Wear It: Ideal for traditional weddings where you want to represent your Idoma roots unapologetically.

5. Bronze Royal Aso-Oke Agbada

Everything about this wedding agbada style, from the coral beads to the cane, screams “groom energy” and a luxurious, old-money Yoruba wedding look. 

6. Deep Wine Regal Agbada

One thing about Nigeria celebrity weddings? They always eat it up with their traditional attire! Davido’s agbada style here is a head-turner and this is a top choice for men who want to match the bride’s glam and make a strong style statement. 

7. Emerald Royalty Agbada

If you’re a fan of emerald green, you should definitely try this style. The look is clean, commanding, and rooted in elegance. It’s a great pick for grooms who want something regal and coordinated with their partner’s outfit.

Care Tips: Avoid hanging this agbada for long periods, fold with a clean cotton cloth layered in between.

8. Sky & Rose Harmony Agbada

This charming wedding agbada style for men brings a soft and elegant feel to traditional wear. Unrelated but don’t you love how it’s styled to complement the bride’s rose-pink lace outfit? 

Where to Wear It: Ideal for Yoruba traditional engagement ceremonies. The color combination also works beautifully for weddings held indoors or in well-lit outdoor venues.

9. Royal Igbo Crimson Agbada

Moses Bliss ate this look up! This wedding agbada style for men pays homage to Igbo culture with a bold twist. It’s a perfect mix of cultural depth and confident aura.

Where to Wear It: Tailor-made for Igbo traditional weddings (igba nkwu), especially for grooms who want to honour heritage while looking unapologetically regal. It’s also great for multi-ethnic weddings where cultural style is embraced and celebrated.

Care Tips: Use a soft brush to dust the embroidery after each wear, especially around the sleeves and neckline.

Good to Know: Red symbolizes wealth, love, and strength in many African cultures, making it a powerful color for weddings and traditional unions alike.

10. Deep Green Velvet Agbada 

If power had a dress code, this would be it. With how he paired it with dark shades, a coral neck bead, and a king’s staff, it gives a strong “leader of the day” energy. 

11. Black and Gold Aso-Oke Agbada 

If you’re going for timeless wedding agbada styles for men, this black and gold Aso-Oke ensemble is the definition of ancestral elegance. 

Where to wear it: Ideal for traditional weddings held in cultural centers, heritage venues, or even destination ceremonies that emphasize legacy.

Good to know: This style mirrors many iconic looks worn by African kings in film and real life. It’s a favorite among men who want to step into marriage with presence.

12. Royal Agbada with Nature Motifs

If you’re hunting for wedding agbada styles for men that match your partner’s outfit without losing that bold masculine energy, this agbada is a dream. The colour and embroidery gives off a royal, almost magical vibe. 

Where to wear it: Perfect for couples who want their traditional attire to reflect love, harmony, and artistry.

13. Igbo-Inspired Agbada with Fur Shawl

Amazing how this blends traditional Igbo wedding attire with agbada elements to create something powerful and unforgettable. It’s signaling nobility, wealth, and cultural pride.

Where to wear it: For the groom who wants to honor both Igbo tradition and Yoruba fashion with a royal twist. A perfect outfit for intertribal weddings.

14. Tiv Heritage Agbada 

This striking agbada features the iconic black and white stripes of the Tiv people of Benue State. It’s a powerful, minimalist look steeped in heritage.

Care tip: Always dry clean. The white stripes can stain easily, so store in a dust-proof garment bag and avoid harsh ironing to protect the weave.

Good to know: The black and white stripes, known as A’nger, are deeply symbolic in Tiv culture, representing purity and strength. Pairing it with modern tailoring like this gives you both fashion and cultural honour.

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, agbada isn’t just an outfit, it’s presence. And the right style can change how you walk into a room.

You’ve seen the bold, the clean, and the classic. Now it’s just about picking the one that matches your energy. Save the ones you like, send them to your tailor, and show up looking like the man you know you are!

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tuxedos, suits, blazers. Senator designs on African men, especially Nigerian men, just hit different. A clean senator fit will have you standing tall without even trying.

But, finding a senator design that suits your build and your taste is not always easy. If you’re big on looking great, staying on top of fashion trends  or just want to see how stylish men are showing up. This guide is for you.

We’ve rounded up 70 male latest senator designs that actually work for different guys. And to make things even easier, we also spoke with a reputable brand in the senator design space to share real tips on how to wear each style, the kind of fabric to use, and what to tell your tailor so nothing goes left.

So, no matter the purpose or destination, these latest senator designs that are straight fire will give you all the inspiration you need!


Quick Note: All the images featured in this post were sourced from Pinterest and screenshots, so you might notice some variations in quality. We prioritised showcasing real, stylish inspirations over studio-perfect pictures — so you can get a better feel for how these senator designs actually look in real life.


Classic Senator Designs

These classic senator designs are evergreen. They’re perfect when you want to look well put-together without looking like you’re trying too hard. 

1. Ivory Grid Senator Design

This is one of those classic senator designs that doesn’t need to say much to say a lot. The soft ivory tone gives off a calm, rich energy. If your style is more refined than flashy, this is for you.

Where to wear it: Perfect for intros, elders’ birthdays, church services, or when you need to meet her family and you don’t want any uncle raising eyebrows.

2. Wine Pinstripe Senator Design

This is what happens when colour, detail, and culture meet balance. It’s a true classic senator design that gives you richness off the bat. And this senator design works best for guys who like strong colours but don’t want to be flashy. 

Where to wear it: Great choice for traditional weddings, networking events, family celebrations, or any setting where you want to look premium and composed.

3. The Skyline Pleat

This classic senator design just feels fresh. The standout here is the structured pleat detail running straight down from the shoulder. It gives the outfit a little architecture and makes your upper body look taller and more composed. 

Where to wear it: This look works anywhere casual meets class—housewarming, chill events, naming ceremonies, or even for Sunday brunch with the boys.

Tailor notes: Ask for a lightweight breathable fabric that won’t cling to the skin. 

4. The Ridge Detail

You don’t see this classic senator design every day. This is for the guy who wants something minimal with a little edge. It’s especially great if you’re broad-chested—you’ll fill out that ridge panel properly and still look structured.

Where to wear it: Wedding receptions, end-of-year parties, soft launches, or even date nights when you want to show effort without looking overdressed.

5. Plum Shadow Senator Design

This is what you wear when you want to look like a man that knows himself. Yes, the deep plum colour gives a regal energy, but, what makes this one special is its shadow-panel effect. This classic senator design is perfect for dark-skinned guys because it makes your complexion pop without clashing. 

Where to wear it: Ideal for formal events. It’s also solid for pre-wedding shoots.

Tailor notes: Fabric choice is everything here. Go for a high-quality suiting fabric with subtle sheen or silk blend to get that soft shift in colour. 

6. The Shoulder Lock 

This is one of those senator designs that makes people take a second look—not because it’s loud, but because it’s smart. If you’re the type that likes structure and clean lines, this classic senator design is your fit. 

7. Prestige Set Senator Design

This senator design doesn’t need noise—it carries weight on sight. Best for guys who want to look like they own the room without raising their voice. 

Where to wear it: It’s a wedding chairman fit, anniversary dinner, or luxury pre-wedding shoot.

8. The Polished Panel

This senator design is the definition of classy with no extra effort. It works for slim to mid-sized builds, especially if you like your fits tailored and sharp.

Where to wear it: Engagement ceremonies, pre-wedding shoots, church, or anywhere you want to look premium but approachable.

9. The Relaxed Collar

This is the senator design you wear when you want to look dressed but still feel comfortable. It fits bigger body types perfectly, and it’s a great option if you like room to move or you sweat easily.

Where to wear it: Family functions, elders’ birthdays or Sunday thanksgiving.

10. Breeze Cut Senator Design

This is one of those outfits you throw on for a day event and end up getting compliments from every direction. Everything sits easy. Ideal for guys who don’t like fitted clothes or just want something that feels chill but still stylish. Also perfect if you’re tall or broad—you’ll wear the volume well.

Where to wear it: Daytime events, house parties, naming ceremonies.

11. The Monochrome Block

Another classic senator design that’s cool, calculated, and creative. It’s for the guy who wants his senator wear to feel modern. If you like fashion-forward looks that don’t go too far, this is your lane. 

Where to wear it: Fashion events, creative industry gigs, photoshoots, date nights, or when you just want people to know you have taste without saying a word.

12. The Urban Patchwork

There’s a lot going on here—but it works. Best for the guy who likes detail. If you pay attention to how textures, fabrics, and accessories work together—this is your style lane. 

Where to wear it: Fashion pop-ups, influencer brunches, gallery events, or any social setting.

13. Diagonal Draft Senator Design

This look is what happens when a tailor decides to break the rules, intentionally. Everything’s tilted, layered, and slightly offbeat in the best way. It’s a bit quirky, but still very wearable.

Where to wear it: Day parties, rooftop events, vacation slay, or even an intimate wedding where you want to be both comfortable and remembered.

Tailor notes: The stitching here has to be precise, there’s no room for imbalance. Fabric should be lightweight and breathable (think linen or textured cotton). 

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Male Latest Senator Designs

Today’s latest senator styles for men are redefining what it means to dress up. Let’s take a tour on some of these senator designs.

1. Wine Regal Set with Jacquard Panel

This rich wine-toned senator design stands out for its elegant structure and subtle jacquard embroidery panel. Wear with loafers in black, wine, or patent leather for extra shine.

2. Multicolor Heritage Panel Robe

One of the latest senator designs that blends northern royalty with modern flair is this one. Featuring a long embroidered robe made of patchwork-inspired woven strips over a clean white kaftan base, it delivers full visual impact while staying rooted in tradition. 

3. Minimalist White Embroidery Senator

Not surprised this is one of the latest senator design because, the all-white base gives it an angelic, modern-naija feel, but the subtle geometric embroidery on the chest and pocket adds just enough cultural richness.

4. Regal Black Embroidery Senator with Tribal Insignia

Pair with brown or gold leather slippers or low-cut loafers. A white fila (cap) or even a soft turban completes the soft-power look.

It’s the kind of design you wear to stand out at high-society events, weddings, or cultural showcases. Ebuka didn’t just wear this, he ruled in it. Dry clean only to preserve the intricate embroidery and fabric strength.

5. Wide-Leg White Senator with Short-Sleeve Top

A few years ago, this style would’ve made people laugh or pause in confusion. Baggy senator trousers with a short-sleeve top? Unthinkable. But today, it’s one of the most fashionable silhouettes, thanks to major celebrities like Davido. Add a bold neckpiece if you want a regal, show-stopping touch.


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White Senator Designs for Men

White is a bold choice, and not everyone can carry it. But if you get it right, White senator designs are one of the cleanest senator design looks you can wear. This section is all about white senator designs that help you stand out and give wealth and premium energy.

1. Minimal Loop Senator Design 

This isn’t your regular white senator design—it’s got subtle innovation. If you want a clean look with just enough detail to feel styled—this is it.

Where to wear it: All-white parties, court weddings, photo shoots, or any upscale event.

2. Textured Signature Senator Design 

This white senator design is tailored like a suit and styled like a boss. Every detail here is intentional. If you value calm, control, and taste—this one is your signature look.

Where to wear it: Naming ceremonies, meetings with in-laws, high-society weddings, classy brunches, or any event where “gentleman” is the vibe.

3. The Rope Stitch Switch

This white senator design doesn’t just stand out—it reinvents the whole game. If you’re the style-forward guy who doesn’t shy away from a little drama, and you know your angles or like your clothes to speak before you do—this is your lane.

Where to wear it: Fashion events, influencer shoots, destination weddings, or any event where you need to serve “I came to own the moment.”

4. Pinstripe Fresh Senator Design

If clean was a fit, this would be it. It’s simple, yes—but not plain. There’s structure in the cut, and the fabric’s subtle texture does all the talking without saying a word.

Where to wear it: Sunday outings, or even casual office Fridays if your workplace allows native wear.

5. Sculpted Wave

This white senator’s design is not just fashion—it’s architecture. It’s the kind of fit you don’t need to talk about, people just notice. For men who see style as an investment. 

Where to wear it: Award nights, weddings where you’re playing a key role, milestone birthdays, or upscale galas. This is not a random Saturday outfit.

6. The Royal Regiment

Talk about a white senator design that is a fusion of old-world military elegance with new-school Naija sophistication! Even the sword brooch finishes it like a badge of rank.

Where to wear it: As a groom, wedding chairman, lead celebrant at a milestone event, or for fashion-forward shoots. 

7. The Regal Commander

This white senator’s design is built like a throne. It’s best for men who like their clothes to reflect power. 

Where to wear it: Traditional engagement (groom or elder brother), high-profile weddings, title ceremonies, or official cultural events. 

  1. Monotech Layer Senator Design

This white senator design plays with structure in a way most white outfits don’t. The visible seam lines, boxy sleeve cut, and metal studs give it an almost tech-wear vibe. 

Where to wear it: Fashion shows, upscale product launches, exhibitions, or exclusive networking events. It’s not for loud parties.

9. The Monochrome Block Flip

This is one of the smartest ways to wear a white senator design. The outfit flips the script—using black as an accent panel against a white backdrop. 

Where to wear it: Casual Fridays, semi-formal events, creative meetings, or your “show up and impress.”

10. Black Column Cut Senator Design

This white senator design plays with symmetry in the most satisfying way. 

Where to wear it: Perfect for grooms, traditional engagements, evening receptions and the likes.

11. Interlock Detail Senator Design

This senator’s design is what happens when minimalism meets intention. And let’s not ignore that red cap—pure Igbo energy.

Where to wear it: Church services, traditional family events, cultural ceremonies, or even meet-the-parents scenarios. It gives respect, maturity, and presence.

12. Pocket Fit Senator Design

This white senator design brings pockets into the spotlight—and not just for aesthetics. You can wear it to daytime weddings, gallery openings, urban traditional ceremonies, birthday shoots, or smart-casual events.

13. Embroidered Bib Look Senator Design

At first glance, it looks simple. But look again. If you want to experiment with form but still keep it elegant, or you like when people ask, “Where did you get this sewn?” Try this senator design. .

Where to wear it: High-fashion owambe, birthday shoots, premium events, fashion dinners, or when you just feel like dressing with intentional sauce.

14. Minimalist Top and Wide-legged Pants

These white senator designs are clean cuts. Try this with your Groomsmen, destination weddings, pre-wedding shoots, cultural celebrations, or upscale chill events with a “dress fresh” vibe.

15. Oversized Flap Pockets and Strap Detailing

Want to project boss elegance? Wear this white senator design to naming ceremonies, housewarmings, or anywhere you want the room to look when you enter.

16. Relaxed Wide-Leg Senator Set

If you want a laid-back, fashion-forward senator design that’s still neat and composed, try this. Good for low-pressure events like creative industry hangouts, fashion-forward weddings, dinner parties, or even Friday mosque outings. Just be sure the vibe is relaxed.

17. Sharp Minimalist Senator With Chest Flap Detail

This white senator design keeps things sleek but adds edge with an angled black flap and dangling metallic accent. 

Where to wear it: Perfect for traditional weddings, photoshoots, or for upscale Sunday lunch with the crew or your babe’s family.

18. Sunburst Pleat Statement Senator

This white senator design is a masterclass in architectural tailoring. If you’re the type who prefers unique textures and sculptural looks over loud colors, this design delivers that high-fashion drama while staying rooted in African elegance.

Where to wear it: Rock this to weddings, art exhibitions, upscale naming ceremonies, or even your own traditional engagement. 

Black Male Senator Designs

Black male senator designs are powerful and timeless. You can wear them to a formal dinner, a night out, a funeral, or even a corporate event, and you’ll still look clean. Come have a look at some black male senator designs that scream steeze.

1. Intricate rhinestone embellishment 

This black senator design is geometric and symmetrical, giving it a rich, regal finish without being overwhelming. Perfect for men who love quiet luxury with a bit of flair. 

Where to Wear It: The shimmer detail makes it perfect for occasions where you want to stand out, but still look refined and traditional.

2. Grey-and-Black Cutout Print 

It’s a smart blend of minimalism and flair. Great for men with broad shoulders or a fuller build—the long, straight cut elongates the body while the busy sleeve design draws attention upward. 

3. Structured Silhouette 

This is a true minimalist stunner in the senator design world. The layered tunic hem also hints at a fashion-forward approach to traditional wear.

4. Embellished Vertical Embroidery Pattern

This is a rich and regal black senator design. Best worn on broad-shouldered men — the fall of the fabric flatters stature and width.

5. Three-Quarter Sleeves and Tapered Silhouette

This black senator design is a masterclass in elevated minimalism. The three-quarter sleeves and tapered silhouette give it a sleek, modern fit. 

Where to Wear It: Art shows, fashion events, or cultural launches. 

6. Intricate Matte Embroidery In Key Zones

This black senator design was done with restraint — an all-black ensemble featuring intricate matte embroidery in key zones. The design draws your eyes with texture, not color, making it both timeless and commanding.

Where to Wear It: Award nights or black-tie traditional events. Could also work for New Year’s Eve parties.

7. Vertical White Pinstripes

This black senator design reinvents subtlety with vertical white pinstripes that elongate the frame and add a tailored sharpness. Great for men with lean or athletic builds who want to appear taller and sharper.

8. Vertical Gold Embroidery 

This black senator design stands out with clean tailoring and vertical gold embroidery that travels diagonally across the chest and down the front. Also flatters darker skin tones thanks to the rich black-gold contrast.

Where to Wear It: Engagement parties (as the groom or the man everyone mistakes for him).

9. Polished Velvet Panel

This long kaftan-style senator outfit is tailored with elegance in mind. Ideal for plus-size men or taller builds — the length elongates the frame while the dark tone slims.

Where to Wear It: Dedications, church thanksgiving, high-society birthdays — events where elegance meets formality.

10. The Textured Embroidery Panel 

This black senator design keeps it sleek and traditional with a twist. The textured embroidery panel in the center and along the side seam adds depth without overwhelming the look. 

11. Elegant Embroidery

One black senator design that stands out for its elegant embroidery, is this one. Tall and lean builds will especially benefit from the vertical flow of the embroidery. Also flattering for men with broad shoulders, since the detailing enhances upper body structure.

Where to Wear It: Evening weddings, award shows, formal dinners, or events where you want to look tasteful and expensive.

12. Tailored Silhouette & Fabric-Covered Buttons

This is the definition of minimal sophistication. No embroidery, no shine — just premium structure and intent.

  1. Triangular Pocket Detail

This is a smart and formal black senator design with subtle windowpane check patterns. You can elevate further with accessories.

Where to Wear It: Work meetings, boardroom presentations, or speaking engagements.

14. Tribal Embroidery Detail

This senator design features a clean long-sleeve senator cut, tailored to flow smoothly from shoulder to hem. Perfect for men with broad shoulders and round faces — the vertical embroidery elongates the torso.

15. Geometric Embroidery Senator Design

This outfit is subtle but stylish diamond-shaped embroidery in white and red thread — giving just the right amount of visual interest without overpowering the fit. Great for men with athletic or lean builds, as the structured top emphasizes the shoulders while the fitted trousers elongate the legs.

Traditional Senator Designs for Guys

Traditional senator designs for guys are rooted in culture, and that’s what makes them special. This section is for guys who like their fashion to carry a bit of home. 

1. The Royal Flank

This is not your everyday traditional senator design. If you’re the dude who’s confident in traditional silhouettes and doesn’t mind being the best dressed at a gathering—this is your fit.

Where to wear it: Weddings (especially as groom or chairman), award ceremonies, cultural galas, or upscale owambes. It’s a power move.

Tailor notes: The body should be tailored to fit, not boxy. Fabric should have weight—wool or brocade blend—to hold the structure without looking stiff.

2. Regal Beaded Asymmetric Senator Design


This outfit borrows from Igbo-inspired ceremonial fashion but modernizes it with a sharply tailored longline jacket and dazzling bead embellishments across the shoulder and arm.

Where to wear it: Wear this to high-profile weddings (especially as a groom or groomsman), cultural award ceremonies, coronations, or formal traditional events.

3. Cross-Chest Embroidery Senator Set (with Layered Hem)

This ensemble takes its silhouette from classic senator wears but elevates it — reminiscent of Yoruba agbada lineage but condensed into a sleek, modern cut. It’s especially flattering for broad-shouldered builds due to the visual emphasis across the chest.

How to style it:
Pair with polished loafers or suede moccasins in black or dark brown. Keep jewelry minimal — maybe a bracelet stack or one signature ring.

4. Royal Blue Embellished Senator Agbada Set (with Cape Detail)

This traditional senator design takes major cues from Northern and Igbo ceremonial fashion, merging senator-style tailoring with agbada-level regality. This is not for the shy or understated — it’s bold, dramatic, and unapologetically regal.

Where to wear it: Groom outfit for traditional weddings, high-profile chieftaincy ceremonies, or cultural galas where standing out is a must.

5. Royal White Drape Senator with Beaded Chest Epaulets & Crown

See how this traditional senator design reimagines the regal silhouette often seen in Igbo and Benin traditional wear. Though the fabric choice and tailoring stay rooted in modern senator style.

6. Edo-Inspired Regal Senator Design

This is a masterful fusion of modern senator tailoring and traditional Bini/Edo cultural influence. The oversized beads, embroidered velvet vest, and black fabric evoke royalty and ancestral heritage. It’s not just an outfit — it’s cultural storytelling.

7. Igbo-Inspired White Senator Design

This look is a nod to Igbo chieftaincy style — the coral beads, white senator base, and symbolic embroidery on the long sleeveless vest instantly evoke the presence of a titled man. The staff seals the regal energy.

Where to wear it: Traditional weddings (especially for the groom or in-laws), chieftaincy ceremonies, cultural festivals, or photoshoots that require a “kinging” statement.

8. White Senator Design with Gold Embroidery on Sleeves 

The subtle gold embroidery running down the sleeves gives this otherwise minimalist white senator a cultural richness. Ideal for guys with medium to darker skin tones, as the gold warms up the entire outfit beautifully. 

9. Draped Shoulder Cape & Gold Embroidery Senator Design

The cape on this traditional senator design adds drama and structure, while the embroidery draws the eye upward, balancing out fuller body types too.

Where to wear it: Traditional weddings (especially as groom or groom’s family), coronation-themed events or high-profile naming ceremonies, chieftaincy title ceremonies, or milestone birthdays.

10. Deep Emerald Senator With Gold Embroidery 

This look is a majestic blend of traditional Nigerian tailoring and regal Hausa/Fulani influence. Ideal for men who want to exude leadership, elegance, and cultural pride. Especially flattering on tall, lean or broad-shouldered men, as the embroidery elongates the torso visually.

11. Gold-Leaf Detailed Black Senator With Cape Overlay

This traditional senator design is best suited for bold dressers, grooms, or style-forward men who don’t shy away from attention. The gold detail broadens the shoulders, making this great for men with narrower upper bodies. 

12. Yoruba-Inspired Short-Sleeve Senator Design

This look blends the senator cut with unmistakable Yoruba cultural staples. The agbada-style embroidery and fila cap anchor the outfit in tradition, while the sokoto-shorts combo adds a breezy, confident edge. Perfect for Yoruba men who want to showcase heritage without heavy agbada layers. 

13. Hausa-Inspired Senator Design

A signature touch in Northern ceremonial fashion. Ideal for men who love to blend northern formality with pan-African flair. 

14. African Prince-Inspired Senator Design

This outfit is pure royalty. And it pays homage to both northern regalia and Igbo chieftain styles. 

Where to wear it: Traditional weddings (especially as a groom), royal-themed birthdays or photoshoots, chieftaincy titles and coronations.

15. Senator Design with Agbada Cape

Try this traditional senator design if you want to make an entrance at any cultural event, traditional wedding, naming ceremony, or chieftaincy celebration. 

16 Senator Design With Embellished Agbada

This is our Nigerian Northern-style masterpiece reimagined for royalty. It’s also a fit for stylish northerners or those inspired by the Arewa aesthetic.

17. Igbo-Inspired Senator with Isi Agu Vest

The standout piece here is the Isi Agu patterned vest — a traditional fabric worn by Igbo chiefs. It’s a great fit for grooms, young kingsmen, or guests at high-class traditional events.

18. Igbo Senator Design with George Wrapper Twist

Instead of trousers, Davido rocks a pristine white senator top over a traditional George wrapper, a nod to classic Eastern royalty. 

Where to wear it: Igbo traditional weddings or cultural festivals.

19. Isi Agu with Modern Igbo Royal Flair

Ebuka channels Igbo tradition but breaks the mold with a bold navy and wine twist on the Isi Agu top, complete with the prestigious George wrapper-style wide-leg trousers. 

Perfect for grooms, show hosts, fashion-forward cultural enthusiasts, and men who take their roots and style seriously.


FAQs On Senator Designs

1. What are the most common style mistakes Nigerian men make with senator wear?

Wearing outfits that don’t suit your body type or mixing loud, clashing embroidery are two big mistakes. According to the stylist

“Some men like plenty embroidery, but they don’t consider how it sits on their frame. If you’re slim, not every bold design will work.”

Another mistake? Ignoring fit.

“Many guys think senator wear should just be straight. But it has to frame your shoulders and chest — not hang like a sack.”

2. What’s the best way to dress senator wear down for casual settings?

Keep it clean and minimal.

“Some people still wear senator with big shiny shoes, and that’s what makes it look too serious or like they’re going to a wedding. If you want to be casual, wear soft loafers or even those designer slippers. Not bathroom slippers, please. Slippers that still give style.”

3. Are there any fabrics men should avoid (e.g. they fade fast, wrinkle, trap heat)?

Yes. Avoid cheap polyester, stiff fabric, or anything too shiny. He also warned about overly stretchy materials: “Those soft stretchy ones — they may feel comfy, but they don’t hold shape well. They droop.”

4. What’s the best type of fabric for senator styles that last?

Premium and polished cotton are his go-to picks.

“Soft cashmere holds its form and doesn’t trap sweat. Polished cotton too — it gives a crisp look without needing too much ironing. You’ll spend a little more, but it’ll last longer and look better.”

5. What are the current senator fashion trends men should know in 2025?

Cropped trousers (Ÿ length), short-sleeve or oversized tops, monochrome or bold contrast stitching, textured or layered designs. “Guys are now doing loose tops with cropped pants. People used to laugh at it — now they’re calling tailors.”

He also mentioned embroidery is evolving: “Not the full chest embroidery again — now it’s centered or side-focused. More minimalist.”

6. What shoes work best with senator wear — and what should be avoided?

Best picks: Loafers, mules/slides, minimalist sneakers (for casual versions)

7. What’s a reasonable price range to sew a proper senator wear in 2025?

Depending on fabric and design, here’s the breakdown:

  • Basic styles: ₩25,000–₩35,000
  • Embroidered or layered styles: ₩45,000–₩65,000
  • High-end custom finish: ₩70,000+

“If you’re sewing from scratch and want good cashmere, expect ₩60K upward with embroidery.”


Before I Go

Senator designs are more than just a fashion choice for Nigerian men — they’re a blend of tradition, confidence, and personal style. And these 70 latest senator styles prove just how versatile they’ve become.

Choose the right pieces, pair them with confidence, and you’re good to go!


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Men Need Support Too. Here’s How Five Nigerian Men Find It /man/imd2025-how-five-nigerian-men-find-support/ Tue, 19 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000 /?p=317961 For a day dedicated to supporting men and boys, it makes sense to look at the actual structures that hold men together. The real support systems. Their communities. Their friends. 

The starting point is simple: men aren’t allergic to support. So this year, we asked five men: where does your support come from?

 Their responses map out what that support looks like through communities formed through shared history, chosen families built in adulthood, and groups where vulnerability isn’t punished. The kind if safety every boy should grow into. 

Nimi*, 32

On a random day in June 2020, I shuffled through my Google Drive and noticed that the same faces had appeared in my photos since 2014. So I thought if these people can be in my pictures every year, they must be my tribe. I was right, and I’ve been good since. 

It’s tricky to quantify the amount work went into building this community, and the support that’s come from them. The most challenging part for me was the amount of voluntary disclosures I had to give and receive, and that’s still ongoing. The WhatsApp chats and the FaceTime calls never end, and I also my friends to keep in touch.

My community is my top priority, and I treat them accordingly. I know I will always find all the love and support I need in them. They are always there and will answer me when needed. As a result, there has never been a time when I was scared that I’d wake up and not see my people again. 

About a year ago, I was forced offline due to a severe power outage in my area. By the second day of the blackout, these people, at different times, stormed my house to confirm I was good. One of them burst into tears when they saw that I was alive and well. This deep level of love? I can’t take it for granted.

That same evening, they dragged me out of the house, and my friend entered a dance competition so she could win a power bank and hand it over to me: she didn’t want me to ever go off the grid again.  

They’ll always have my back. Life has been fair to me because of these people. Money can’t buy that. 

Dami, 30

I have two communities, each serving different purposes. One is a group of three people I’ve been friends with since uni. They’re my closest friends, and it’s easy because we grew up together in a way. 

The second is a group of 12 boys, and they’re there for more serious matters — the personal and intimate matters I can’t discuss without being judged. It’s interesting how this works because I met them recently. However, I warmed up to them the more I spent time with them and saw how freely everyone interacted with one another. 

Each group support me the way they can, and it works for me.

It’s great I have these two groups in my corner; having them around helps me figure stuff out. In 2018, the 3-man group helped me navigate my most serious heartbreak. They’d met my ex several times and knew how I felt about her, so they got what I was going through. They checked in multiple times, and one even reached out to her to fix things. The same group swooped me and supported me through the next heartbreak. 

They’re also a solid sounding board and are the first people I tell things to when they happen. There’s no other way to say it — they are my safe space. 

Ayo, 31

I’m a people person, so I have different friend groups. I grew up with some and met others through school, work, or other friends. But in all these groups, a close bond has been formed. 

I’m not going to lie; it took some work to get there, from the serious stuff like showing up when they needed me to everyday things like celebrating their wins. But it was all worth it because now I know they’ll always have my back. It makes living more pleasant. 

I’ve been homeless twice, and I wasn’t bothered. I knew I wouldn’t sleep under a bridge; I just needed to reach out to some of my people and let them know I was in a fix. On both occasions, two of my guys took me in. The first was free, and the second let me pay the rent at my convenience. It doesn’t get better than that. 

Oluwatosin, 28

For years, I didn’t think I needed a community of friends. Most people form strong friendships or communities in university, but I was a lone ranger. It’s not like I didn’t have friends, but I didn’t see the need to create or nurture a community that would be my safe space. 

This thinking only changed about three years ago. I’m not sure how, but I’m glad it did, and I should have given it a chance much earlier.

The first step in finding these folks was to identify what we had in common, which formed the basis of our bond. Now that I have them, they support me emotionally and financially. A while back, I felt the weight of family and work pressure crushing me, and these people got me through it. Also, I know who I can ask for the urgent ₩2k and the significant loans. We prioritise refunds. This keeps the relationship healthy.

I’ve learned that I can always be vulnerable with them, and they’ll make me feel safe. There’s no high-pressure situation they can’t get me out of. It’s reassuring.

David, 26

My siblings are my support group, and they’ve always been. In secondary school, I’d hear people talk about the not-very-nice experiences they had with members of my family, and I was always like, “Wait, what? My family is so chill.”

This outcome is primarily driven by my parents’ efforts to make us a close-knit group — I’m grateful for it. The primary thing I feel with them is love, which is excellent for my quality of life.

Two of my close friends also recently left the country, so my siblings have become an even more integral part of my community. We talk every day, I’m close with their kids, and I even live with one of them. They make me feel incredibly lucky. 

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6 Men Share the Health Scare That Made Them Invest in Personal Clippers /man/6-men-share-the-health-scare-that-made-them-invest-in-personal-clippers/ Fri, 28 Jun 2024 08:00:04 +0000 /?p=329212 Let’s face it: with most men, it takes a major health scare to get us to prioritise our well-being. At least, this is exactly what happened to these six guys who share the experiences that made them ditch public clippers and invest in their own personal grooming tools.

Ademola*

My barber wasn’t around, so I tried this new guy who just opened a spot on our street. Everything seemed brand new, making me less insistent on watching him sterilise the clipper. Two days after the cut, I started having a terrible itch on my head. Initially, I ignored it. I thought it was just a regular itch that would go away. Then, the rash started spreading and became painful to touch. Eventually, I had to go to the hospital when over-the-counter medication didn’t work. I felt embarrassed when the doctor asked if I had a personal clipper, and I said no. I bought one on my way home from the hospital.

Dayo*

I got my clipper during COVID. I went to my barber’s to cut my hair, and he got into a heated argument about how the coronavirus was propaganda and just a way for the government to embezzle money. Something about the way he argued made me doubt if he took any health and safety precautions in his salon. The next time I went to the shop, I had my clipper.

Ibrahim*

My barber’s sterilising kit fell off the table, and I helped him pick it up. In the process, the content spilt, and I found out this guy only had water and soap in the container. I was so livid and went into a long argument about how he was endangering customers’ lives. This guy didn’t seem remorseful at all. He said something along the lines of, “If you dey fear, buy your own clipper.” It was a sub, but it was also the call I needed to buy a personal clipper.

Jerry*

I once had a deep cut while my barber was shaping my hair, and blood was all over. The barber sterilised the clipper with mentholated spirit, but it didn’t seem like it was enough. Something about getting injured by an object that had been used by so many other people was deeply unsettling. In that moment, I kept wondering how many other customers had had similar accidents and if the wishy-washy sterilising process was all the barber did. I eventually gave him money to help me buy a brand-new personal clipper.

Johnson*

I watched this HIV sensitisation programme on TV, and there was this guy who recounted how he’d gotten infected with the disease from a haircut. I realised how stupid and careless I’d been not to have a personal clipper. I didn’t have money to buy one then, so I went without a haircut until I saved up enough to buy a clipper.

Adekunle*

I went to cut my hair, and the guy before me had a terrible rash on his head. It was such a disturbing sight, and I almost walked out of the salon to come back another time. After the cut, my barber sterilised the clipper, but I wasn’t satisfied with how he did it. I told him to also use a lighter to burn the clipper blade for proper sterilisation, but he said there was no need because the spirit had done the job. After my cut that day, I knew I had to get a personal clipper.

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5 Nigerian Men Share What It’s Like to Navigate Sex With Erectile Dysfunction /man/5-nigerian-men-share-what-its-like-to-navigate-sex-with-erectile-dysfunction/ Thu, 20 Jun 2024 10:49:42 +0000 /?p=328735 Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common sexual concern for men, especially older men prone to cardiovascular diseases and medications with side effects that affect sexual performance.

For men’s health awareness month, I spoke with five men who share what it’s like to keep their sexual lives active despite their challenges with erectile dysfunction.

Five Nigerian Men Share What It’s Like To Navigate Sex with Erectile Dysfunction

Johnson*, 45

I was diagnosed with stage two hypertension after I turned 40 and have been on blood pressure medication ever since. A major side effect is erectile dysfunction. I initially stopped taking the drugs after I noticed because I couldn’t stand not enjoying sex with my wife. However, she was more concerned about my health and insisted we return to the doctor to ask if other medications could be considered. My medication has been changed a couple of times, but it’s been the same. Now that my erection isn’t like it used to be, we’ve incorporated a lot more foreplay into lovemaking. It wasn’t like we didn’t do foreplay before, but now that’s what we focus on more. On some days when the erection surprises us both, we have penetrative sex. I’ve suggested buying sex toys, but my wife wouldn’t hear of it. She’s fine with the foreplay, and I can’t complain.

Ademola*, 50

I’ve been managing erectile dysfunction for more than 15 years now. It got in the way of my sexual life in the early years because my wife and I didn’t know much outside of regular “missionary sex”. However, things changed after we attended a couples’ retreat. The retreat had a session for sex education for couples, and we were keen to attend because we both knew of my condition. It was at that retreat that we learnt more about how to spice up our sexual life outside of penetrative sex, including the use of adult toys. The strap-on toy has really helped; I don’t have to worry about a weak erection or going limp during sex.

Hassan*, 43

The sex hasn’t been the same with my wife since we were both diagnosed with cardiovascular diseases. Before I was placed on medications, I’d noticed my erection wasn’t like it used to be. Even though my wife didn’t think it was much of an issue, I was bothered. She was more concerned about our general health, and I kept reminding her that sex is also an important part of our health. I spoke with some of my friends, and I learned that some of them faced similar challenges. I guess it’s one of the downsides of ageing. Now, I use prescribed medication to control ED, but I also do lots of exercises to keep my testosterone levels up. My doctor also advised taking lots of watermelon before sex, and it helps.

Ibrahim*, 30

I was diagnosed with bilateral hydrocele—a swelling of both scrotums—when I was 10 and had to undergo surgery. The swelling returned when I was in senior secondary school, and it affected my erection. I could barely get my penis up, and I was always in so much pain. I had another set of surgeries when I was in 100 level. After the surgery, I noticed my erection was always in the semi-solid range. I complained to the doctors and was placed on some medications, but they don’t seem to help that much. When the medications do work, and the erection is strong enough, I feel pain in my scrotum.

The whole experience made me avoid relationships for the longest time because I lived with the constant worry that I couldn’t sexually satisfy my partner. I’ve had breakups caused by my inability to satisfy sexual desires; they wanted more than foreplay and all the other sexual gimmicks. After that, I resolved to seek out someone who wasn’t so keen on sex. When my current partner mentioned she was asexual, I was more than relieved. Our sex life is perfect because we both have tailored expectations.

Ibrahim*, 32

One of the hardest parts of getting diagnosed with HBP was learning that the drugs could affect my erection. The doctor wasn’t really nice about it either. When I told him my dick wasn’t as hard as it used to be, he said, “You have to pick one between your health and your erection.” I didn’t even know what to say. The treatment was supposed to be temporary, but after some checkups, my BP wasn’t down, and the doctor said I should keep to the medication. I still take the drugs, but I always stop when I’m planning to have penetrative sex. So, if I want to have sex on Friday, I stop taking the drugs on Tuesday or Wednesday. I know this isn’t ideal, but that’s how I’ve been managing it.

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Hygiene 101: How to Care for Your Penis and Balls /man/hygiene-101-how-to-care-for-your-penis-and-balls/ Thu, 13 Jun 2024 10:54:09 +0000 /?p=328413 I recently talked to a friend who said she got scarred after giving her boyfriend oral sex during a random quickie. According to her, “It smelled like stale urine and locust beans down there.” Now, I can’t say I know for sure what a healthy penis should smell like, but I do know what it shouldn’t smell like, and top of that list is stale urine.

After that conversation, I knew I had to cover men’s hygiene for men’s health awareness month. The boys are out here neglecting the hygiene of their reproductive organs. If you’ve got a penis and balls, here’s a guide on how to keep them in tip-top shape.

Wash up

Don’t just splash water on your phallus and jump out of the bathroom. Dedicate some time to gently washing the nooks and crannies. Get all that build-up of sweat and urine out of the way with water and mild soap.

Pat it dry after every bath

Ever pulled off your boxers after a long day and shuddered at the smell that hit your nostrils? It’s probably because you didn’t clean up properly after bathing. It’s super important you pat everywhere dry. Personally, I spread out in front of a standing fan for a few minutes before putting on underwear.

Rinse off after every pee

This is a common practice among Muslim men, but everyone should do it. After every pee, shake your junk to get all the excess urine out and rinse off with water. This is the easiest way to avoid smelling off and having urine stains on your underwear.

Shave

Listen, I’ve never known a time when it was cool to leave a clump of pubic hair hovering over your dick. Grab a tube of hair removal cream and scrape that stuff off. A low trim is preferable since hair also prevents against STIs. If you can, reach for the hair around the anus too. I hear some barbers offer this as a service.

Don’t repeat boxers

Many men are guilty of repeating underwear. That’s bad business for your odogwu and sons, bro. The ideal thing to do is wash your boxers after every use and wear a fresh pair daily.

Stick to cotton boxers

Yes, you prefer spandex boxers and hot pants because they help you hide random erections in public. But do you know they may be doing more harm than good because they trap air? Cotton underwear does a better job at keeping the air circulating down there. Basically, they let the balls breathe.

Avoid hot water

I know you’re tempted to bathe with piping hot water when it’s cold, but that’s bad business for your penis and balls. Hot water can cause irritation. Also, since the testicles need to be cooler than body temperature to function properly, hot water can overheat them and affect sperm production.

Clean the foreskin

Not all men have a foreskin, but if you’ve got one, you’ll need to raise it up and clean it properly whenever you bathe. Smegma—a thick, cheesy-looking secretion—builds up under the foreskin when left unwashed. The smell is unpleasant, and if it’s left unattended, it can also cause redness, itching, and swelling.

Powder it up

Things get real messy down there during the hot season. Air gets trapped in your cotton underwear, and all that sweat makes it annoyingly sticky. One way out? Apply a generous dab of powder in the corners of your private parts. It keeps the moisture in check and helps you feel dry.

Always look in the mirror

Yup, you should always have routine checks where you grab a mirror and see what’s going on down there. Look out for bumps on your ball sack and groin area. If anything looks off, go to the hospital ASAP.

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7 Nigerian Men Share How Self Pleasure Improves Their Relationships /man/7-nigerian-men-get-candid-about-self-pleasure/ Fri, 07 Jun 2024 15:00:13 +0000 /?p=328198 Self-pleasure is an important part of overall . It can help with stress relief, improve sleep, and you’re in charge of your orgasms — what’s there not to like. But engaging in self-pleasure often raises questions, especially considering our society’s perception of it. 

For men’s health awareness month, I spoke with seven married men who get candid about how it has impacted their sexual health and relationships.

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Hakeem*, 39

I didn’t like masturbating before I got married. It never felt like the real thing and cleaning up after grossed me out. After my wife welcomed our first child, we couldn’t have sex for sometime because she had complications during childbirth. So, she suggested handjobs. Something about the suggestion coming from her made me willing to try it out. Initially, she helped, and then, it graduated to me doing it myself. Only thing is, I like when we are together when I go about it. It has helped our sexual relationship a lot. She doesn’t feel the pressure to give in all the time. 

Chibuzor*, 41

As a devout Christian, it’s not something I’m comfortable with. I do it, but only when necessary and there’s no other option. For instance, when we were trying for our first child, I ran a series of tests that needed my semen. I had to pleasure myself to do this, and it was uncomfortable. I also tried it when she was away receiving care at her mum’s place after childbirth, but I’ve realised I just don’t like it. Something about it feels sinful, and I’d rather have my desires in check.

John*, 32

I’ve been an advocate of self-pleasure for men for the longest time. There’s something about self exploration that makes it easier to communicate your desires with your partner. If you’ve explored yourself enough, you can guide your partner towards the things that’ll give you maximum pleasure. Sex is beyond foreplay and penetration, and more men need to understand this for a healthy sex life. Some men have frequent sex and are still sexually frustrated. It’s because they’ve not discovered what truly excites them.

Jinad*, 35

Since I turned 35, I’ve realised masturbation helps me sleep better. Sometimes, I’m too tired for all the foreplay and pre-stimulation that goes into sex after a long day at work. Relieving myself is easier. My wife didn’t like this at first, but she stopped bothering when she realised it took pressure off her. Now, she even suggests “beating it” when I’m having trouble falling asleep.

Jason*, 38

I read somewhere that expelling semen as frequently as you can may. I’m not sure if it’s true or not but I’m getting closer to my 40s and I’ve been committed to taking my health seriously. This is one aspect of it.

Ben*, 29

I don’t understand when people say masturbation affects sexual performance. I can’t remember ever taking any sexual stimulant before sex. I only need to pleasure myself a few hours before sex, and it helps me go longer during sex with my wife. Personally, I think more men should do this, especially men who have performance issues. A lot of the aphrodisiacs and sexual enhancement drugs aren’t healthy. This is a natural way to boost your performance.

Adekunle*, 35

I think it’s important to address the shame around self-pleasure. Our society presents it as something sinful or telling on a man’s ability to perform his manly duties. I don’t think it’s any of these. A lot of sexual frustrations in marriages can be solved if men embrace self-pleasure. As long as it’s done in moderation, I don’t think self-pleasure is bad. 

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